7.26.2023

Bucket List

 


Prior to my trip to Italy earlier this month, I hadn't left the continent since 2005 when Amy and I flew to China to pick up Jada. I look forward to the hopefully near future when I am more able to travel and therefore make up for lost time in working through my lifetime travel bucket list.

About that list. The more you explore, the more you realize how much there is to explore. Just to cite one of many examples, a simple search of Instagrammable photo spots in Spain ballooned my wish list in that one European country from "I should visit Spain sometime in my life" to at least five separate trips involving dozens of cities and destinations.

On a site called Tripline, I've been keeping tabs of these must-see places as I've found it to be a good tool for seeing where things are in relation to each other, so that I can then cluster them into a single trip. The photo above is my "Middle East and Africa" page, and you can see how places of interest can clump together and congeal into a plan to see multiple of them in one visit. 

Alas, I am going to need way more time and money than I will ever have to see everything, so as with anything else in life, choices will need to be made. Privileged to be able to do this, and energized by the pursuit of learning and experiencing new things along the way!

7.24.2023

Recommended Reads, 47th in a Quarterly Series

 


Books I've read lately that I'd recommend:

The Good Neighbor: The Life and Work of Fred Rogers (King). What a life!

Beneath the Tamarind Tree: A Story of Courage, Family, and the Lost Schoolgirls of Boko Haram (Sesay). Gripping account.

A Test for Our Time: Crisis Leadership in the Next Normal (Tang). Leadership lessons are best dished with integrity and vulnerability.

Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away (Duke). Paradigm shifting for me.

Crazy Rich Asians trilogy (Kwan). Guiltiest of pleasures.

An Immense World: How Animal Senses Reveal the Hidden Realms Around Us (Yong). Brilliant throughout.

 

7.19.2023

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Here are a couple of excerpts from a book I recently read, "The Song of the Cell: An Exploration of Medicine and the New Human," by Siddhartha Mukherjee.


7.17.2023

A Place of Worship

 


I'm not much of a Christian let alone a theologian. But I do know that worship is important to the life of the person of faith and to the life of the community of faith. Visiting so many historic and ornate churches in Italy earlier this month, I was repeatedly struck by these places of worship. 

I am not Catholic yet felt drawn in by it all. Worship should inspire awe because God should inspire awe, and I was truly awestruck by the architecture, the history, and the artistic depictions. They all point to a God who is worthy of all this. Thankful for the moments I was able to have.

7.12.2023

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Here are a few excerpts from a book I recently read, "An Immense World: How Animal Senses Reveal the Hidden Realms Around Us," by Ed Yong.


This was a radical notion at the time—and in some circles, it might still be. Unlike many of his contemporaries, Uexküll saw animals not as mere machines but as sentient entities, whose inner worlds not only existed but were worth contemplating. Uexküll didn’t exalt the inner worlds of humans over those of other species. Rather, he treated the Umwelt concept as a unifying and leveling force. The human’s house might be bigger than the tick’s, with more windows overlooking a wider garden, but we are still stuck inside one, looking out. Our Umwelt is still limited; it just doesn’t feel that way. To us, it feels all-encompassing. It is all that we know, and so we easily mistake it for all there is to know. This is an illusion, and one that every animal shares.



There’s always at least one person who writes in with a pompous and incorrect corrective, so let’s get this out of the way: The word octopus is derived from Greek and not Latin, so the correct plural is not octopi. Technically, the formal plural would be octopodes (pronounced ock-toe-poe-dees) but octopuses will do.



This goes against every stereotype one might have about crocodiles as brutish, unfeeling animals. With jaws that can crush bone and thick skin that’s heavily armored with bony plates, they seem like the antithesis of delicacy. And yet, they are covered head to tail in sensors that, as Ken Catania and his student Duncan Leitch showed, are 10 times more sensitive to pressure fluctuations than human fingertips.



This dependency on vibrations is so absolute that many animals can exploit orb-weavers by camouflaging their footsteps. The small dewdrop spider Argyrodes is a thief, stealing from larger spiders like Nephila by hacking their webs. From a nearby hiding place, it runs several lines of silk over to the hub and spokes of a Nephila web, effectively plugging its sensory system into that of the bigger spider. It can tell when Nephila has caught something and is wrapping it in silk for storage. It then runs over and eats the insect itself, often after cutting it free from the main web so that the host spider can no longer detect it. Argyrodes acts carefully to avoid creating its own telltale vibrations. It runs only when Nephila is moving and treads more slowly when Nephila is still. It also holds on to any strands it cuts to avoid any sudden releases in tension. Through such subterfuge, this thief is almost never caught. As many as 40 of them might be plugged into a single Nephila web.



Echolocation differs from the senses we have met so far, because it involves putting energy into the environment. Eyes scan, noses sniff, whiskers whisk, and fingers press, but these sense organs are always picking up stimuli that already exist in the wider world. By contrast, an echolocating bat creates the stimulus that it later detects. Without the call, there is no echo. As bat researcher James Simmons explained to me, echolocation is a way of tricking your surroundings into revealing themselves. A bat says, “Marco,” and its surroundings can’t help but say, “Polo.” The bat speaks, and a silent world shouts back.



Many animals, including salmon, turtles, and Manx shearwaters (a kind of seabird), can also imprint on the magnetic signature of their birthplaces, etching it deep within their memory so they can find the same sites as adults. Turtles use these imprints to lay eggs on the same beaches from which they hatched. Their accuracy is uncanny. Green turtles that nest on Ascension Island can find that same tiny nub of land in the middle of the Atlantic after a 1,200-mile journey to and from Brazil. This “natal homing” instinct is so strong that turtles will sometimes swim for hundreds of miles to their beach of birth, even though there’s a perfectly good alternative right next to them.[*9] Perhaps that’s because good nest sites are hard to find. They must be accessible from the water. The sand grains must be large enough to let oxygen through. The temperature must be exactly right, since turtles develop as males or females depending on how hot or cold their eggs are. “A turtle might say: Well, the one place in the world I know works is the beach where I developed myself,” Lohmann says. And its magnetic map allows it to relocate that sure-bet nursery after years away at sea.



In 2001, when astronomer Pierantonio Cinzano and his colleagues created the first global atlas of light pollution, they calculated that two-thirds of the world’s population lived in light-polluted areas, where the nights were at least 10 percent brighter than natural darkness. Around 40 percent of humankind is permanently bathed in the equivalent of perpetual moonlight, and around 25 percent constantly experiences an artificial twilight that exceeds the full moon. “ ‘Night’ never really comes for them,” the researchers wrote. In 2016, when the team updated their atlas, they found that the problem was even worse. By then, around 83 percent of people—and more than 99 percent of Americans and Europeans—were living under light-polluted skies. Every year, the proportion of the planet covered by artificial light gets 2 percent bigger and 2 percent brighter. A luminous fog now smothers a quarter of Earth’s surface and is thick enough in many places to blot out the stars. Over a third of humanity, and almost 80 percent of North Americans, can no longer see the Milky Way. “The thought of light traveling billions of years from distant galaxies only to be washed out in the last billionth of a second by the glow from the nearest strip mall depresses me no end,” vision scientist Sonke Johnsen once wrote.

7.10.2023

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Here are a couple of excerpts from a book I recently read, "Sex and Vanity," by Kevin Kwan.

 

“Mother could have taught that woman a thing or two about subtlety! Her style is just a bit too Hong Kong for my taste,” Paloma sniffed. 

“How do you define ‘too Hong Kong’?” Charlotte asked as she tore off a slice of the pizza and carefully removed every bit of mortadella and cheese with her knife and fork. 

Paloma pondered for a moment. “There’s a certain showy quality. The colors they choose to wear, and how they don’t mind being seen dripping in jewels at all hours of the day.” 

“You call it showy, I call it flair. I suppose I have a penchant for extravagant, eccentric style.



"He doesn’t even know you! He doesn’t have a clue who you really are, or the fact that you’d never be caught dead driving an Aston Martin. He loves the idea of you, the image of you; he just wants to post beautiful, hot pictures of you and him and see how many likes he gets. He’s in love with the social media impression of you, how you enhance his brand. It’s all about sex and vanity to him, nothing else! He can’t possibly love you in the way you deserve to be loved because he’s incapable of seeing you as a real person, a real woman. But I see you. I see the beauty inside you, and also your sadness, your fears, your flaws. I see exactly who you are and I love you for all those things, Lucie. I’ve loved you since the moment we met. I love your family, I love your mind, and I love your art. I want to be there to support your passions and dreams, whatever they are, and I want to know you more so I can love you more.”

7.05.2023

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Here are a few excerpts from a book I recently read, "Rich People Problems," by Kevin Kwan.


I don’t even think that the queen lives this well, Jacqueline thought, recalling that before Alfred and Mabel had moved in, her godmother, Su Yi, had sent a team over from Tyersall Park to help train the British staff properly. Asian hospitality standards were fused with English manor-house traditions, and even her boyfriend Victor had been impressed the last time he visited. Holding up his Aubercy dress shoes one evening as they dressed for dinner, he said in astonishment, “Honey, they fucking ironed my shoelaces!”



Su Yi stared at the grainy shot of Charlie putting the ring on Astrid’s finger. “You know, of all the jewelry I own, this ring is the most special to me.” 

“I know, Ah Ma.” 

“I never got the chance to ask your grandfather if he bought it.” 

“What do you mean? Who would have bought this engagement ring, if not him?” 

“Your grandfather did not have that much money when I first met him. He was just a recent medical graduate. How on earth would he have been able to afford this canary diamond?” 

“You’re right. It would have cost a fortune at the time,” Astrid said. 

“I always suspected that Uncle T’sien Tsai Tay was the one who bought it, since he helped to broker the marriage. The quality of the stone isn’t perfect, but when I wore it, it always reminded me of how life can surprise you. Sometimes, the thing that at first appears flawed can end up being the most perfect thing in the world for you.” 

Su Yi was silent for a few moments, and then she looked at her granddaughter with a sudden intensity. “Astrid, I want you to promise me something.” 

“Yes, Ah Ma?” 

“If I die before your wedding day, please don’t go into all that mourning nonsense for me. I want you to have your wedding just as you planned in March. Will you promise me you’ll do that?” 

“Oh Ah Ma, nothing’s going to happen. You’re go…going to be sitting in the front row of my wedding,” Astrid stammered. 

"I’m planning on it, but I wanted to say this just in case.” 

Astrid looked away, trying to hold back her tears.



No matter how old you are, no matter how ready you think you are, nothing quite prepares you for the loss of a parent. My father passed away years ago, and I still haven’t quite recovered. People have been saying to me all week long, “At least your mother lived to this ripe old age, and you got to spend all these years with her.” And I just want to spit in their faces. I want to scream at them, Shut up, all of you! My mother died. Please don’t tell me how lucky or fortunate I am that she lived this long. She has been here on this earth my entire life and now suddenly in the blink of an eye she’s gone. Gone, gone, gone.



To my daughter Felicity YOUNG LEONG, I bequeath my collection of Celadon porcelain, which I know she will cherish and keep immaculately spotless for all eternity. (Alix: Hahaha! Felicity and her OCD. Mummy sure had a sense of humor when she wrote her will!)



“What’s higher-ranking than a countess? A duchess? A princess? An empress? I don’t care if you need to bribe Prince Bibimbap of Korea, I just want Colette to have to curtsy to me the next time I encounter her. I want to wipe the floor with her face!” Kitty screamed.



Charlie put down the note and reclined on the bed, staring up at the ceiling. Astrid had been lying on this very bed, probably staring at the same view. It was her favorite suite at the George V and he had been the one to introduce her to it the first time he brought her to Paris back in their university days. It seemed like a lifetime ago, and he wished he could just go back to that time and do everything differently. Charlie rolled over and buried his face in the pillow, inhaling deeply. He thought that if he breathed deep enough, maybe her scent would return.



“I still can’t believe they disowned you for marrying Salimah. She’s a Cambridge-educated pediatrician, for God’s sake!” Charlie exclaimed. 

“How accomplished she was didn’t matter to them one bit. I’ll never forget what my father said to me when I told him I was marrying her with or without his blessing. He said, ‘If you don’t care about your own future, think of the children you will have with that woman. For eleven generations, the blood will never be pure.’ And that’s the last conversation I ever had with my father.”

"Unbelievable!” Charlie shook his head. “Were you surprised that he harbored those feelings?” 

“Not really. My parents have always been racist and elitist to the extreme, like so many in their crowd. Peel away the veneer of wealth and sophistication and you’ll find extremely provincial, narrow-minded people. The problem is that they all have too much money, and it’s come so easily to them that they think they’re bloody geniuses and so they are always right.” 

Charlie laughed as he took a swig of his beer. “I’m lucky, I guess—my father always told me I was an idiot who was wrong about everything.”



Astrid looked out onto the view of the peaceful cove below the terrace. “Scientists talk about how we inherit health issues from our parents through our genes, but we also inherit this entire lineage of fear and pain—generations of it. I can acknowledge whenever my mother is reacting out of this fear, but the most powerful thing I’ve realized is that I’m not responsible for her pain. I won’t make her fears mine any longer and I don’t want to pass them on to my son!”

7.03.2023

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Here are a few excerpts from a book I recently read, "China Rich Girlfriend" by Kevin Kwan.

 

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  Here are a few excerpts from a book I recently read, "Moby Dick," by Herman Melville. Again, I always go to sea as a sailor, bec...